Share Sexual Fantasies

Sharing sexual fantasies is becoming increasingly common in American relationships as a way to deepen sexual intimacy. Couples understand that being open about their fantasies can lead to more fulfilling sex. A couple in Dallas might have a “fantasy night” once a month. They sit on the couch, pour a glass of wine, and take turns sharing their sexual fantasies. One might say, “I’ve always fantasized about having sex on a beach under the moonlight,” while the other might respond with something like, “That sounds amazing. I also have a fantasy about a threesome with two women.”​

By sharing these fantasies, couples can learn more about each other’s desires and, if both are comfortable, even try to act some of them out. It’s important, however, that both partners feel safe and respected during this sharing process. They should listen without judgment and only pursue acting out a fantasy if both are fully consenting.